Greetings fellow ComixBawse!
I finally started watching Dear White People—a Netflix Original—with my boyfriend. I had always wanted to watch it, but I never actually got around to it . . . until recently. I must say, I was rather pleased with the first episode—“Chapter 1.”
Beware! Spoilers ahead! If you haven’t seen it yet, go watch it right now! Go on Netflix or sneak into your friend’s account and watch . . . then come back!
The episode opens with a narrator speaking about the fictional Ivy League Winchester University (there actually is a University of Winchester, but that’s in the United Kingdom). The narrator praises the students as “future olympians and presidents and innovators trying to crack the next Facebook.” We learn about the satirical campus magazine, Pastiche and their most recent blunder . . . a blackface party. Yes, they hosted a blackface party . . . on campus. And this wasn’t supposed to happen. There were some smart people on campus who noted that a throwing a blackface party would be a really bad f*cking idea, but for some reason a secret invite was sent out anyway and that god-awful party still happened.
Sam White, our melanin-queen protagonist, is the host of the controversial campus radio show, “Dear White People.” Black students love it, and White students hate it . . . shocker! White people can’t handle the “aggressive” and “divisive” nature of the show. Sam makes sure to note that she’s not causing a divide, she’s just showcasing it—to her, there’s a difference.
Sam tells the campus what some acceptable Halloween costumes would be: a pirate, or a sexy nurse, but what she deems unacceptable is . . . herself! Her scathing words pierce though the mic as her BFF, Joelle listens in the newsroom. While she’s going on about her abbhorence for the blackface party she gets some texts from a mysterious “Summer Bae.”
Joelle and Sam then walk through campus and run into Reggie, one of the hotties from the Black Student Union who’s noticeably into Sam. Sam seems to be feeling him too.
But, wait!!! Cut to the following scene, Sam is humping said Summer Bae and she’s clearly enjoying it. I know in my heart that it’s Reggie because they were totally making eyes at each other. But, then the camera pans down and BAM!!!! You get a nice shot of a White boy’s face in post-orgasmic bliss. Mind = blown!!!! Ladies and gents, meet Gabe the real #SummerBae. Sorry Reggie, you’ve just been friend-zoned.
Later, the major Black student campus groups a.k.a The Black Caucus which includes: The Black Student Union (BSU), The African American Student Union (AASU), The Black American Forum (BAF), and C.O.R.E. (The Coalition of Racial Equality) get together to discuss the blackface party.
Here’s a quick breakdown of the Black Caucus groups:
BSU – the die-hard pro-Blacks, they do anything to support their people on campus (They’re my favorite).
AASU – they’re pro-Black . . . but they don’t seem to be as #woke as the BSU. For example, one chick was so shocked that a blackface party would happen in 2017; she thought that would be something to only happen in the 50s. Um, what? She clearly doesn’t watch the news . . . or read.
BAF – they’re the poets and wordsmiths. They like to hype everyone up about what’s going on.
C.O.R.E. – they’re the we-think-we’re-better-than-everyone-else pro-Black, Black students. They obviously come from money (their expensive clothes can’t be ignored). They often debate with the BSU in regards to who does more work for the campus Blacks. Oh, the president of C.O.R.E, is the dean’s son (he’s arrogant to the core . . . see what I did there?)
During the groups’ back-and-forth discussion about the party, Coco (the hot, bougie member of C.O.R.E.) sees an Instagram post of a shot of Sam in Gabe’s dorm as she’s leaving with the caption: “hate it when bae leaves.” Coco, now sporting a devious smirk on her face, tags the members of the Black Caucus and soon enough it gets around to Sam. Everyone is in shock because how can Sam, the main spokesperson of Black student’s issues, be banging a White boy???
Everyone is mad at her and they can’t understand her choice in boy-toy. Sam gets pissed at Gabe because he confirmed their relationship without talking to her first. She soon forgives him and they go to hang with the Black Caucus while they watch The Defamation, which is a hilarious spoof of Scandal. Reggie is jealous when he sees Gabe with Sam and he can’t understand why he even bothered to show up. Gabe claims that he wants to understand the Black struggle and Reggie isn’t buying it. Reggie thinks that Gabe will never be able to walk in his shoes. Sam is a bit passive and Gabe gets upset because he feels like she let him get attacked. He says:
“I would never let my friends make you feel like you didn’t belong in my world.”
When I heard that line, I was like “woah.” It was that line that made me want to write this post.
So, can you be pro-black and date a White boy?
In my opinion, I think you can be Black and date a White person, because well . . . you can do whatever you want. But, that doesn’t mean it’ll be easy. In fact, it’ll be really hard. You can’t ignore the injustice that plagues the news or the fact that Black people get killed at a higher rate than White people. You can’t ignore the differences in your skin tones and you can’t ignore that if you’re Black, other people will think you’re inferior to them.
Some people argue that you shouldn’t date your oppressor and others say you can as long as you don’t forget where you come from. I agree with the latter. I’m in an interracial relationship myself; I’ve been with a Hispanic guy for three years and it actually does work. There are some misunderstandings every now and then, but we respect our differences and then it works like any other relationship. I don’t believe that people are colorblind . . . you’re certainly aware if you’re melanin deficient or not. It’s actually a huge pet peeve of mine when people say “I don’t see color,” because it feels like you’re purposely trying to ignore people’s differences. There’s nothing wrong with having differences! Just don’t kill or disrespect the people that are different from you. If you can’t do that, then stay away. Simple. I’m of average height and I’m not going to go on a rampage and slaughter tall people. Why? Because it would be stupid! I’ll look up at you, think you’re tall, admire your tallness and move on. If you’re cool, I’ll befriend you.
I could go much deeper into this, but in short, interracial relationships take hard work, open communication and trust. If both of you make the effort to understand one another then I think you have the foundation for a solid relationship. Even if you’re frustrated because he or she doesn’t always “get it,” be patient. If they love you, they’ll try. Also, don’t make them feel bad . . . if they don’t get it because #hateitwhenbaesmad.
Stay tuned for my upcoming post on the next episode—“Chapter 2!”
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Featured Image of Sam + Gabe is Courtesy of Netflix